It's impact left a imprint on you emotional nerve endings. He touched you seriously and the desire to stay was destroyed because of the problem of the relationship with him. It's always harder to leave something deep down you wish had been different. A wrong turn here and there making this null and void. Now you are left without being relieved and replenished. It will take time to return to some normalcy. A better guy w'o a problem will be your blessing for endurance.......(Life for you has to return to some fairness after all)Why are the problematic relationships more dificult to get over?
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Because along with finding forgiveness for him, you have to forgive yourself for the time you spent with him.
Maybe for putting up with things you think you shouldn't have.
Maybe you worked extra hard to fix it all and it still didn't work.
you stuck around longer and dealt with more crap than you normally would. therefore, you put more of an effort into the relationship, which means that you cared more.
If it weren't problematic, we wouldn't leave.
We get used to the drama and at some point may even need it.
We are creatures of habit and it takes about 28 day's to create a habit, bad habits sneak up on us and good habits have to be created,they both take the same time to set. Most see habits as a physical thing and don't see that habits start as a thought' there is a 5 step proses to healthy thought. First we get a THOUGHT and we have thousands of thoughts every day and it depends on the second part of the proses EMOTE, this is were we rape the thought in emotion our emotions control our memory and this is were the problem can start. We can get caught in a loop of think and emote and not get to the third part of the proses which is SEEK %26amp; SEARCH It is important that we don't carry our emotional thoughts into this part of the proses as if we do it can block us from seeing a clear picture, We think in pictures and not words and seek %26amp; search is were we can access our pictures. the more emotion connected to the picture the clearer we see, this is why it is easier to help others with a problem. Because we are not personally connected to there emotions we can use seek %26amp; search without our personal emotions getting in the way we can see a clearer picture to the problem. If we can stop thinking emotionally then we can move into seek %26amp; search and give ourselves good advise if not then its were depression starts we get stuck in a loop of the first 2 stages and when we try to use seek %26amp; search its clouded by bad emotions. If we move into s%26amp;s without identerfing the power of emote we can manafest things that arn't real. If we can use the first 3 steps of thought to our advantage then we can move into the 4th proses of thought which is ACTION this is were we can act out our thoughts with converdence and do something or say something. When we get to this point of the proses we have learnt something and created Knowelage or knowing and that completes the 5 step proses of one thought. We all need to learn how to get over ourselves through acceptance we create understanding just accept your dessission and move on. I hope you have learnt something about yourself and don't repeat the things that have lead you to this point in your life Personal Development is the key learn to understand yourself before you can understant others. The way we grow is to Know .
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