Friday, July 30, 2010

Why do most relationships that don't work out only last around 3 months?

A lot of my friends have been in this situation where they have dated girls and after 'three months' they have broken it off. It always seems to be 3 months. What is it about the big 'three months' that makes a lot of relationships fail after this amount of time?Why do most relationships that don't work out only last around 3 months?
My Mother has always told me that infatuation lasts anywhere from 2 - 3 months. By this time, one or both parties is looking for the nearest escape route.





My Mother has always said that if you don't know within the first 6 months is this person is right for you, move on because you're never going to know and you are wasting their time and yours.





It all boils down to this - The person(s) in question has not found THE right one and are continuing to look.

What are some good books about teenage boys and their relationships with their fathers?

I want a good read, and I want one about a teenage boy, and his relationship -- dysfunctional or not -- with his father. It seems like all novels I pick up and read the back or inside flap of are about teenage girls and their relationships with their mothers. I'm frankly tired of seeing all of these books about teenage girls and their relationships with their mothers. I want to read a good young adult novel about a teenage boy and his relationship with his father. Do you have any good suggestions for me?What are some good books about teenage boys and their relationships with their fathers?
* The Road by Cormac McCarthy


* The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini


* Out Stealing Horses: A Novel by Per Petterson


* Gilead by Marilynne Robinson


* Anansi Boys by Neil Gaiman


* Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert M. Pirsig


* Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer


* East of Eden by John Steinbeck


* The Chosen by Chaim Potok


* My Father Bleeds History by Art Spiegelman


* Fathers and Sons by Ivan Turgenev


* The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time by Mark Haddon (that one was amazing, I really suggest it).


* Independence Day by Richard Ford


* Big Fish : A Novel of Mythic Proportions by Daniel Wallace (this also became a Tim Burton movie)


* The Film Club: A Memoir by David Gilmour


* A Fraction of the Whole by Steve Toltz


* Stuck in Neutral by Terry Trueman


* Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's鈥?by David Sheff


* Breathing Underwater by Alex Flinn


* Bridge of Sighs by Richard RussoWhat are some good books about teenage boys and their relationships with their fathers?
What about the Swiss Family Robinson? Written by Johann David Wyss. This involves a family who get shipwrecked. Mother, father, 2 boys.... It's a good book. There is definitely a relationship between father and sons.





You know it is hard trying to find a book about a father and son. You are right. Most books involve girls and their mothers......





Hope this helps!
Oh interesting. I have always thought just the opposite. It seemed when I was growing up that the only stories were about boys and never about girls. Interesting that your take on it is just the opposite. I would have to say some of the ones I enjoyed the most were





A Light in the Forest - by Conrad Richter


Shiloh-by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor


The Great Santini -by Pat Conroy


Sounder-William H. Armstrong


Where the Red Fern Grows-Wilson Rawls


Life with Father-Clarance Day Jr.


My Brother Sam is Dead-byJames Lincoln Collier


Across Five Aprils-Irene Hunt
Ordinary People by Judith Guest is a good one. It's about a teenage boy who is recovering from depression, and his relationship with his dad is a huge part of the novel and his steps toward recovery.
Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison
A Wolf at the Table by Augusten Burroughs. It's not a novel but it is a true story about a father/son relationship.
A Day no Pigs Would Die


The Yearling


Edgar Sawtelle
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  • What are some relationships (like force and energy) between traveling in air and traveling in water?

    This is a science question that I have t do a project on and I'm a little lost. I know it has to do with displacement, but im not sure what it has to do with traveling. And how do you displace air?What are some relationships (like force and energy) between traveling in air and traveling in water?
    Force / Thrust


    Mass


    Resistance / Drag


    Speed.





    If traveling UNDER water you can also use Lift and Climb.





    Lift being difference in pressure or displacement above and below (think of diving planes on a submarine or flaps on the wing of an aircraft.)


    Climb being vertical motion due to lift.

    How many peoples relationships has facebook ruined?

    I didn't think facebook ruined relationships like people always said but now I truly believe it. How many people have gotten into fights/arguments over something someone wrote on their s/o wall or a comment on a persons picture that your s/o took way too literally?


    Well it happend to me and I deactivated it because I can't stand to see my boyfriend commenting on this girls picture even if its an ';innocent'; comment.How many peoples relationships has facebook ruined?
    apparently one more.How many peoples relationships has facebook ruined?
    oh yeah, lots..it's because human beings are curious and when we see comments on pictures we tend to think about these people's personalities and their interests. And sometimes these little comments could lead to some misunderstandings and people get jealous of each other and stuff like that...Some people don't really mean it when they say something on facebook but sometimes we get it all wrong. It was just a simple comment.





    I actually deleted someone I knew on facebook coz I noticed that he ignored all my invitations to events and applications..and noticed that he only adds them if a certaind girl added them. He completely ignored me on facebook, he never invited me on groups and went all the and invited other people..It was weird actually coz he was the one who added me in the first place, so why did he do this to me??





    So, anyway I decided to remove him coz I don't want to lose his friendship in real life over something that was prolly silly.


    So, that's how I ended it.


    You don't have to deactivate your account just remove people who cause you to think more than necessary about little stuff and make you feel like a fool..that's all and just keep the good, close friends coz I'm sure they are really intersted in knowing you.:)
    Must be a lot i ignored invitations since last April that was the first invo sent


    Last night i decided to start a account,my wife was not happy telling me that relationships ruin over this and to watch it great start
    haha..its okay sometimes ppl just take


    **** to seriously...just dont concentrate on


    that stuff...childish ppl...u cant change them
    LOL all the time.
    yesss and friendships.

    What are the relationships between analog and digital video interfaces?

    I have learned a lot about coaxial, composite (RCA), VGA (d-sub 15-pin analog), s-video (analog), DVI (digital, computer), component (RGB analog), and HDMI (digital and sometimes with HDCP encryption), but I'm missing how the big picture relates to my practical considerations of the various equipment choices and interfaces.





    But when does each standard become helpful? Display size, resolution, response time? In other words, how do the acronymns: PAL, 720p (progressive), 1080i (interlaced), etc. translate to the video sources, and TVs or monitors that I am considering to purchase?





    And how do they support both analog and digital in the same standard, while DVI requires variations (dvi-d, dvi-i, dvi-a)?





    Do adapters care whether the signal is digital or analog, and if not, then are any losses with adapters?





    And what is this talk about ';upconverting'; a signal? Is this specific to digital, or can it work for analog?





    Lastly, can a capture card receive a digital signal without losses?What are the relationships between analog and digital video interfaces?
    Lots of questions.





    Here are some generic answers.


    In principle, digital interfaces (DVI, HDMI) are better than analog (say component), although there are instances where component may still give you a better picture.





    HD signals are only supported over component, DVI/HDMI, and VGA.





    HD/Blu-ray players support 1080p playback only over HDMI. for copy protection reasons





    Yes, there are cards that can receive digital inputs with no loses (DV signals over an i.Link/1394 i/f is one example).





    Upconversion is a term used for the process of upscaling standard definition signal (eg from a DVD movie) to a higher resolution. In most cases, up -conversion is done digitally; however, the input and output signals can be analog.





    Example: Analog input (say composite) -%26gt; digitizer -%26gt; scaler -%26gt; digital to analog converter -%26gt; analog out (say component)

    What are the relationships between fungi and plants and how do fungi help the plants?

    In mycorrhizas, fungi colonise young roots and access organic carbon from the host. In all but orchid mycorrhizas the fungus supplies the host plant with increased mineral nutrients, commonly phosphate and/or nitrogen from soil. In the case of orchids, the precise physiological relationship is unclear because the fungus germinates orchid seed in the wild, supplying organic carbon to the plant. In addition, the mycorrhizl fungus supplies minerals to the adult plant. The fungus gains no apparent benefit, though density of mycorrhizal fungi declines dramatically away from the surface of the plant.


    What are the relationships between fungi and plants and how do fungi help the plants?
    the symbiotic relationship of the fungi and plants are mutualism. Commonly they are called mychorryzal, example Botelus sp.


    These fungi commonly found in the roots of the plants (trees). The fungi breakdown nutrients from the soil that are not capable of that of the plant. while the plants serves as the shelter and also breakdown nutrients that fungi cannot.


    This mychorryzal relationship is true in a thins soil environment, like mountain which only few inches are top soil.


    Hope it help

    What are the relationships between weather elements and weather factors?

    A weather element is/can be a weather factor. For instance, the weather element of warm moist air blending with the weather element of cold dry air can be weather factors in producing a tornado.





    Element = A Single item


    Factor = A Single item considerred a contributor to an event.

    What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?

    I have a new group of people working together. I want to get the group to bond together and set up for a successful year in 2007. What's a great event to do?What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?
    Look locally for a ';ropes'; course or something similar. That's a fun physical way to learn teamwork.


    Another way to promote group unity is to collectively organize a fundraiser for a worthy cause. Promote friendly competition. Follow a successful fundraiser with a little celebration party.What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?
    Contact Habitat for Humanity and help build a house for someone who really needs it.
    Volunteer at a soup kitchen or something similar - it will allow everyone to work as a team, to accomplish something everyone will feel good about.
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  • How come this guy is already talking about serious relationships?

    I JUST started talking to this 19 year old guy and instead of being really friendly and bubbly with each other and just having a regular conversation and talking about our interests and stuff like that, he's already bringing up serious relationships and how he wants a relationship really badly and just a normal nice girl to love and stuff like that.





    Why is he already talking about serious relationships on the FIRST day we started talking?How come this guy is already talking about serious relationships?
    Hes either desperate


    or


    he believes in love at first site =]

    What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?

    I have a new group of people working together. I want to get the group to bond together and set up for a successful year in 2007. What's a great event to do?What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?
    Look locally for a ';ropes'; course or something similar. That's a fun physical way to learn teamwork.


    Another way to promote group unity is to collectively organize a fundraiser for a worthy cause. Promote friendly competition. Follow a successful fundraiser with a little celebration party.What is the best team event for a work group of about 12 people to promote internal relationships ?
    Contact Habitat for Humanity and help build a house for someone who really needs it.
    Volunteer at a soup kitchen or something similar - it will allow everyone to work as a team, to accomplish something everyone will feel good about.

    What Blood Types are Compatible With Each Other for Relationships?

    Many relationships are based on compatible blood types - not for transfusion purposes, but for personality purposes.





    I want to know which blood types for personality purposes are compatible with each other.





    Due help me out if you know. :3





    Thanks!What Blood Types are Compatible With Each Other for Relationships?
    Do you really think there are only 4 different types of personalites in this world?


    A, B, O, AB?


    Blood types do not contribute to your personality. It's just a fun thing.





    I found this but it was in Japanese so I translated it. (Some were quite difficult to translate)





    A girl/A guy = Stable love


    A girl/B guy = Hard time for the girl


    A girl/O guy = Ideal couple


    A girl/AB guy = Steady relationship which guy leads





    B girl/A guy = Might fight often


    B girl/B guy = They do their own things


    B girl/O guy = Work well together


    B girl/AB guy = Guy is cool girl is hot(?)





    O girl/A guy = Girl compromises more


    O girl/B guy = Work well together


    O girl/O guy = Girl leads but is lonely


    O girl/AB guy = Amazing couple





    AB girl/A guy = Easily gets friendly but also fights easily


    AB girl/B guy = A little bit of trouble


    AB girl/O guy자 = Best partner


    AB girl/AB guy = More like a friend than a coupleWhat Blood Types are Compatible With Each Other for Relationships?
    If you want to have a fun, check the below website.


    http://www.host.or.jp/home/blood/





    If you click a combination, you will see ';90%'; or so. That number tells you how much compatible the couple is.





    The left is male. The top is female. ';O:A'; means male O against female A.
    Blood type dope is just a sort of party joke matter and/or superstition in Japan so that you don't need to take it seriously, dude. It is alike harmless horoscopy.
    Uoh... I'm afraid If I marry a Japanese he will


    suddenly question my blood type and become


    worried if my blood type is not compatible for him.


    Darn.
    Hot blooded couples have the most fun. I am sooo witty.

    How many girls have bad luck with guys or relationships?

    Im asking Becz i have had a fair bit of bad luck. Hah.. They try to treat me like a piece of meat or just rude and dont give a sh**. Currently got a bf and my friends say he's really nice and i know he treats me like he should lol. But it wouldnt suprise me if things turn cold, like usual :S Any opinions?How many girls have bad luck with guys or relationships?
    I've always had bad luck with men! I tend to stick with a man longer than I should... I keep thinking that it's going to get better, but it doesn't! They don't change!





    Boys and their stupid penises!!!How many girls have bad luck with guys or relationships?
    This is going to sound bad but pleaase don't take offense to it. There is something that you're doing that makes the guy think he can get away with treating you like crap. Why do I say this? because I used to do the same thing for SO LONG. I hate it coz you probably think you're being a real sweetheart right and that these guys are idiots after its over because you treated them so well only to be treated like **** back. Guys like to push their boundaries. and nice girls tend to let them push those boundaries way too far coz well, we're to nice to say otherwise. I just bought a few books from chapters one called 'why men marry bitches'; and the other is ';how to avoid falling in love with a jerk'; seriously they've helped me out SO MUCH. It really sucks but sometimes we gotta realize that maybe things are the way they are coz we let them! but you totally ahve the power to change the outcome into a very positive one! Good luck and i hope this guy keeps treating you like a princess!
    Well let's see... four of my five major relationships have all ended in the month of May! Three of the five ended on or right after prom. My last boyfriend broke up with me because he likes boys and is having commitment issues. So I definitely feel you on the bad luck thing. And I understand how you kind of wouldn't be surprised if things turned cold-- after being told I would never get broken up with by my ex the morning he broke up with me I'm definitely going to have issues believing a guy the next time he says he wants to er, ';go the distance.';





    I know the trust issues I'm developing/you seem to kind of have aren't good, so I guess I'd advise you to take it slowly.
    s*it happens and there is nothing you can do about that... but you cant think its going to down the drain cause then it will... just hold out you will find that good guy just for you :)
    Agree with dutchess. Most men suck.... and it is not your problem.


    Just try to look for a nice guy out there... they are rare to find but worth searching. :) Good luck!
    I always have bad luck with guys. Then i had my first gf and now everything is ok!
    Every girl's been in a relationship with a sh** guy at some point. It's all part of the learning experience.
    Can't avoid it if your a girl. That's just the way it is. Don't call it bad luck, its just life with men.
    At least you can get a guy! :(
    Cant help you with that. Ive never had good luck in that department. Like a friend once told me.....Im the last person to be giving advice on that subject!
    I know how you feel... guys treat me like sh** all the time. %26gt;%26lt; dont be so trusting with this one, because if u fall into his little love trap.... right when your in the middle he will spit you out. ( if that makes sense... )
    I have great luck...


    All guys like me and treat me with respect :)
    i have horrible luck with guys i dont think its the guys fault just none of them meet my high exspectations
    don't be soooo negative maybe he won't turn out like the other guys
    yep story of my life. Men suck lol.
    Me.. i never have good luck when it comes to guys
    i like potatoes








    don't let them do it! that's all!

    What is your opinion on domestic violence, and how do think women should get out of abusive relationships?

    What are the male personality characteristics of an abuser?


    How should women pick up on these subtle signs and cues?





    Thank you, I would like some women here to share their opinions.What is your opinion on domestic violence, and how do think women should get out of abusive relationships?
    Domestic abuse is obviously an awful thing. I think you are very quick to link it directly to men abusing women, I don't know if you are simply not interested in men being abused or just don't care about them, but women abusing men is becoming more and more common and has always been more common than anyone might think, percentage wise, it is reported far less than when men abuse women. As for the signs, well theres is no way of telling unless you experience it. It would be discriminating to look for possible signs of a domestic abuser; a person either is one or isn't and it doesn't matter what they look like, how tall they are, how rough or clean they look or where they work.What is your opinion on domestic violence, and how do think women should get out of abusive relationships?
    It's bad.


    With their feet.
    Personalty characteristics are jealousy, obsessivness, possessiveness, over controling, selfish, inconsiderate, mean, critical. They are verbally, emotionally, psychologically and physically abusive. Manipulative bahaviour. Most likely they are heavy drinkers or drug users. They are not secure within themselves. They have intimacy and relationship issues. They are liars and cheats. And cowards.





    For women stuck in such a horrible situation, it is never as simple as just walking out the door. There are usually children involved and if he has all of the above personality traits, guess who keeps and spends the money?
    These may be warning signs:


    Not to mention must of the violence against women and children is not reported.





    Does he ';just'; slap you? Has he beaten you up ';only'; 3 or 4 times?


    Does he call you derogatory names and analyze your personality in a belittling manner?


    After he abused you, does he then suffer intense feelings of guilt and remorse, apologizes profusely, and overwhelms you with gifts and promises to never again make you suffer?


    Is he extremely possessive, jealous of your involvements and relationships outside of your marriage? Does he phone you several times a day just to ';check'; on you and expects you to make him the center of your life?


    Does he become furious when you do not obey him, or sometimes, for no reason at all? Is he constantly finding fault with the way you dress, act in public, or show him love? Does he often accuse you of infidelity?


    Was he emotionally and/or physically abused as a child?


    Did his father beat his mother?


    Does he abuse alcohol, drugs, or other mood-altering substances?


    Does he destroy property or hurt pets?


    Is he angry at life in general? Does he feel cheated by society, his parents, his co-workers?


    Was he ever the victim of trauma, such as combat, multiple car accidents, or child sexual assault, for which he has not received professional help?


    Does he hold traditional ideas about male and female roles and adhere to these ideas inflexibly?


    Is there any possibility that you might be a battered woman? Even if you only slightly suspect that this might be the case, seek help as soon as possible.
    My opinion on domestic violence is that if it happens once, the aggressor should be put in prison, if it happens twice the abused needs to seek psychiatric help immediately.








    Men and women can both be victims of domestic violence.





    I wonder if there is a study that shows the amount of domestic violence toward men there is that goes unreported.....
    They should get out when the signs first start. For instance, if the guy becomes a little too jealous of the time his wife is spending with her girlfriends or her family, but not him, then it's time to make preparations to leave. If a guy is always hovering over the woman, never allowing her a chance to be herself or enjoy her life, constantly telling her the things she does is a waste of time, that's another indication.
    Absolutely not tolerated! Women should be respected and never be abused! Never in my life would I abuse a women. It is totally unacceptable.
    I think domestic violence is unacceptable. Against both women AND men.. don't make the mistake of thinking women are the only victims in this.
    If the woman is as sexist as you then they should leave any relationship because they are going to get slapped.





    Maybe she should learn, as you should, that the world does not revolve around a sexist women victimhood mentality and that both men and women suffer from many things alike.
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  • What research has been done into the maintenance of relationships?

    I'm stuck on an A level past paper question. Outline and evaluate research into the maintenance of relationships.


    My teacher said not to use theories e.g. social exchange and equity, but I can't find any studies.What research has been done into the maintenance of relationships?
    There must be masses. That's what psychology, sociology, anthropology and probably a lot of other ologies are all about. I am sure that if you just googled the term, you'd be overwhelmed with information. Good luck!

    Do movies have shaped or influenced your mythology about relationships and gender?

    ~








    In Australia gender indoctrination is being achieved through force-feeding in the media and schools. The depiction of gender rolls has also changed with the times.


    In the sixties and early seventies women were still being told that their rolls were in the home and kitchen with a few children running in a ¼ acre block with a 13sq brick veneer house. To be successful they had to be good cooks, mothers, wives and never complain. The meal had to be cooked and on the table for when the man came home, and the children clean and had to greet the father on entry to the home.


    Example The Brady Bunch, Women ran the home and the men brought home the Dollars. The traditional rolls were depicted everywhere that women looked. Men were depicted as strong and capable with women by their side but subordinate.





    Today women are still being told what to think or say through the media. A typical example would be the TV series “Sex in the City” for the teen age and older. Women are told to be in charge and the men are depicted as playthings, uninformed and to be made fun of. Violence toward men by women is frequently shown on TV. Women are shown to be in control of the work place, finance and stalk the men they so choose. Even the clothes/fashions and body image are dictated. Crime shows depict women as the leaders in investigation and men their subordinates, a change from a decade ago. Cartoon series like “The Simpson’s” also show the mother and daughter as strong and capable, while the husband and son are depicted as dim witted and only to be made fun of. This theme of strong women and laughable men is prevalent in society. If Batman and Robin were written today they would surely be women, only the male butler would keep his job.





    Is it time to try and teach Equity and Equality in society yet?Do movies have shaped or influenced your mythology about relationships and gender?
    Well, they haven't shaped my understanding of relationships and gender, but I have concerns about the effects they are having on today's youth.


    When I was growing up, we only went to movies occasionally, and we did not have 100 TV channels broadcast into our homes every day.





    The more a person is exposed, the greater the chance of the movie values influencing the viewer. So I would expect young people today to be significantly influenced by what they see in the movies, yes.Do movies have shaped or influenced your mythology about relationships and gender?
    I don't think Hollywood movies have done anything to me to change my perceptions of the other gender and relationships.





    The question should be 'Have movies shaped or influenced your mythology about relationships and gender?', but oh no ! You're a Feminist and hence ALL your flaws are ignorable and pointing them out makes me a sexist misogynist !





    Nobody is 'attacking' anybody's grammar here, the point is that anybody CAN make mistakes.
    I think the main influence on my relationships and my ideas of gender came from my childhood and seeing my mother and father relate to one another. Some influence came from my grandparents and my aunts and uncles. Very little influence came from movies because I always considered them make-believe. Perhaps reading books had some influence, as I read quite a lot when I was younger. But movies? No, not really.
    I don't think we realize how much Hollywood has influenced the way we see each other and what we expect to happen to us in a relationship.


    No, not to the point we believe we will love in slow motion, but yes, up to where she wakes up looking gorgeous and he goes out of his way to please her (and has the economic means to do so).


    It's a dream factory because it fulfills sensations we would like to feel and moments we wish we had.
    I think chick flicks are doin a lot of people a disservice now a lot of women are looking for their own hugh grants/ collin firth's and those teen sex comedies give guys the wrong ideas (I don't care what women say about what's on the inside that counts etc, the nerds in the movies cannot pull chicks that hot), loll, haha to Frantz Fanon, I seriously hope that's a joke
    Movies influence us all - reason why they should have representation.





    Most of all, I learned Hollywood movies really influence people's opinions in other parts of the world about american women - very sad, indeed. People think American women are mindless bimbos that jump into bed or uptight feminists controlling men. We need more women making movies so that we can represent ourselves. i practically boycott hollywood movies - relying on stereotypes has grown tiring.
    Yes, absolutely. Even though they're mostly severely tongue-in-cheek, there's enough reality in some of them to scare me. One of the most powerful ones is Sex and the City. Part of the reason it's so entertaining to some is that it's so realistic. The most suitable (?) of the four, Carrie, is still an awful little girl deep down.
    Definitely me and my fried were talking on the phone last night about this. How we were brought up watching movies, thinking there was always a happy ending. And their was the one out there Mr. prince charming. Which it isn't like that in real life.
    Not mine that I know of- but my sister grew up thinking the Brady Bunch and The Waltons were the ideal families. She wanted to live like the Walton's when she got married. It didn't happen.





    I do keep rewatching Paint Your Wagon, Pure Country, and Where the Heart Is.
    Yes occasionally they do, it does not matter that they are 'only' films, they are created by people who can often have a lot to say about the world just like any other art form. All art has the potential to influence what you think about the world.
    It did when I was extremely young because I wasn't taught any better. As far as interacting with females, I learned the hard way on my own the difference between being on friendly terms and being romantically/sexually interested in them.
    My favourite film from when I was about 5 was the rocky horror show. Transvestites and bisexuality, didn't seem anything wrong with it.
    Experience is still the best teacher. Having a vivid imagination only builds up to the final expectations. Like Shakespeare said: '; To dream but yet to sleep';
    The young and weak-minded are shaped by popular culture.
    No matter how hard I try to do the slow motion hair toss and seductive walk it doesn't work. I just end up looking strange.
    Jen I hear what your going through, sexy walking for me has never worked. One time I walked over one of those fans on the street with my kilt (like Marilyn), I got arrested for indecent exposure.
    After watching Charlie's Angels and Tomb Raider, I would say yes, my perceptions of what women do is very distorted.
    none. I think a load of romance things are a load of crap and not my cup of tea.

    Do polyamorous relationships work with starting a family?

    My fiance is pregnant and we plan to get married in December. Our relationship includes this guy that I really like. I am kind of concerned now that our relationship is turning more serious involving marriage and a child. I just wanted to know like how what the statistics were like what the divorce rate was for polyamorous relationships?Do polyamorous relationships work with starting a family?
    It can certainly be done, but it does provide very unique challenges. Some poly families who attempt it end up breaking up or reverting to monogamy with their primary partners, and some stay together through the thick and the thin. It's hard to find statistics.





    Some resources:





    http://www.geocities.com/~tamsenb/Page-P鈥?/a>


    http://monogamymultiplied.blogspot.com/2鈥?/a>


    http://practicalpolyamory.blogspot.com/2鈥?/a>





    And there are many more to be found on Google.Do polyamorous relationships work with starting a family?
    I don't think it ever works over the long haul.


    J

    What do you believe is the biggest Factor in relationships?

    With you knowledge and/or experiences what do you believe to be the biggest role in making a relationship work?





    Also with your honest opinion do you think sex plays a big role?





    Honest answers people. Thanks. :-)What do you believe is the biggest Factor in relationships?
    Trust and Honesty are the big 2 in my books.





    Sex plays an important role, it isn't everything, but it is still essentialWhat do you believe is the biggest Factor in relationships?
    Honesty .
    Trust and Communication.
    Trust, honesty,love, talk, care, be friends.

    Would you support a law that required people in relationships to do equal portions of house-work?

    If so, how would you enforce this law? Also, how would reconcile the passing of this law with the 4th amendment?Would you support a law that required people in relationships to do equal portions of house-work?
    No.


    If people are old enough to be in relationships they should also be old enough to sit down and discuss the ';who does what'; part of that relationship.


    It's an impossible law to enforce.





    ';911, what's your emergency?';





    ';My husband didn't take out the trash!';





    Brilliant way to waste tax payers money.Would you support a law that required people in relationships to do equal portions of house-work?
    No.





    First, I wouldn't support having to register and legally qualify relationships.





    Second, I wouldn't support the sort of bookkeeping and rigidity necessary to quantify and equalize the amount of housework being done.





    Doing housework is kind of like paying for dinner: if there's a serious dispute over who's doing how much, the relationship probably isn't very valuable to begin with.
    No. This is something that has to be worked out privately. If one partner in a couple is dissatisfied with the amount of housework the other is doing, or not doing, then it needs to be thrashed out between them. It's not something you can legislate for, it would be too intrusive.





    My personal experience is that when both are working, the one who cares more generally does more, and I don't think that's going to change any time soon.
    No, but I'd support anyone willing to launch an armed overthrow of any government that wanted to get too far into my private life.





    Equal housework is a stupid idea unless both people work jobs with similar hours, and even then it depends.





    I assume we also expect the wife to climb up on the roof for repairs half the time, do the tune-ups and oil changes on the car, etc?






    No. I think partners should contribute equally but that's their business not the governements.





    If I work a 12 hour day, which I do regularly, my husband does far more housework. It wouldn't be fair if I had to do an equal amount because he only worked for 8 hours.





    But if he feels I'm not doing my fair share he can leave me, not take me to court.





    I have friends who do 100% of the housework and work full time. I think that's crazy but it's their business.
    No.





    We have enough laws. We need to simplify.





    Who will measure what is equal, will an inspector have to be paid. Fines, probation, jail, prison, parole, probation cause ya didn't rinse the dishes before dish-washering them..





    That is going too far. What will not be regulated....
    Nope. Just because I don't like the way things tend to be done, with women doing the majority of the housework, childcare, and emotional work of marriages on average, doesn't mean I want legislation to change that. That's fascism, that is.
    No, that's daft.





    How would it be enforced? Hm, maybe you'd be sent timesheets that you had to fill out and submit by a certain date every month. If the time. But then people would just lie because they wouldn't want to go to jail or be fined if their timesheets didn't match up. Fun.
    I'd really rather I keep doing most of it besides the stuff I really hate to do like taking out the trash and cleaning the food bits out of the sink.





    It's law in our house that he perform those two tasks, and I'll handle the rest. So far, works well =o)
    No, that would be one silly law.


    If one partner works full time,and the other is a SAHM or SAHD, then the person at home should do most the housework, but if they're both working then they should split the household work.
    No. Using the legal system to legislate cultural practices and ';moralities'; is sickening to a society, fascist, weakens it. I don't think marriage itself should be a ';state'; matter. It's a religious concept.
    No, that would be a ridiculous governmental meddling with people's private affairs, and it would be completely unenforceable.
    No, it's something for them to work out between them. It wouldn't be economical or sensible for the government to get involved.





    Harriet
    I wouldn't support a law - but the solution is simple. If you're not happy with your partner's housework, leave them. No-one forces people to stay in relationships they consider unequal :-)
    No.





    I don't want the government interfering in my household any more than is necessary for my immediate health and safety.
    That law would be completely ridiculous then the government is definitely getting too involved in our lives.
    Only if they worked equal hours, earned equal amounts of money, and initiated sex an equal amount of time.
    No, clearly there's no point in advancing legislation which simply cannot be enforced. This is a waste of taxpayer time %26amp; money.
    Of course not! Laws shouldn't intrude into peoples private lives. Working women just need to get some backbone, and insist she get fair help with the house work.
    No cause there are some things I dont like doing and some things he doesnt like doing. i dont want a law making me do things I dont want to.
    No, I support speedy no-fault divorce if either party is not happy. That's what I always do.





    I finally got it right with wife # 3 !
    No, every relationship works differently.
    I would. Very much so.





    Then I would use the law to get out of any one night stands that might turn into a relationship.
    No, come on now. Some things should be left to married people to work out.
    Oh hell no! Our entire family would have been wiped out if my husband was responsible for cooking.
    No, because i don't think people would ever follow it.
    That's just dumb. No.
    No I wouldn't.





    - Because most relationships are heterosexual.. and most men earn more than most women%26gt;%26gt; therefore the men would simply be doing more work than her. ('obviously more', because men generally do more anyway, but in this case it would be unreasonable)

    Does educational level play a part in long term relationships?

    One partner is a college graduate and the other is a high school dropout. Could this cause problems?Does educational level play a part in long term relationships?
    It did for me. My first husband actually graduated high school, but they just passed him instead of educating him. His education skills were that of a 9th grader at best. I couldn't tolerate being with someone so ignorant in the long run.





    Now... let me say this. I've met some high school dropouts that were well educated. They chose to further themselves, even if they did not do so in a school setting.





    It's very difficult for the dropout to ever have feelings of worth around a college graduate. They will always feel lacking and less than until they can prove to themselves that they can finish high school.





    So yes, it will always be a bit of a problem in all relationships, just the degree of it will change from couple to couple.Does educational level play a part in long term relationships?
    Yes, and I provided statistics, but those are about populations, not about an individual.


    I think this could cause problems if you let it, especially if there is:


    1. Lack of respect


    2. Huge disparities in life goals.


    3. Major income differences.


    There is also the issue of friends, free time and leisure activities.


    All of these are either no big deal or deal breakers. It is up to them to sort through these issues.
    It certainly can. I, a college grad married a high school grad and he apparently resented it. He was good with his hands and could build or repair most anything and seemed very intelligent. But come to find out he thought that all college grads were educated idiots and he had only disgust for my ';book learning';. To top it off he would not allow me to work in my chosen field. My advice: Go very slowly in a relationship of this sort.
    The only problem it will create is the ability to find a good paying job and be an equal contributor in the relationship. My hubby just finished college after 11 years of marriage, and he now says he understands why it is so important. The struggles, the challenges, and the victory of graduation creates moral character.
    I'm sure in some cases it can play a factor, However, i have a college degree and my husband barely finished high school and we are going strong after 9 years. I do not think degrees can establish someone's intelligence level, i have met very intelligent people who just could not stand school and extremely stupid people who have masters degrees.
    I dont see a problem.


    My husband went to college


    I however did drop out of high school for my own reasons and we BOTH have really good paying jobs.


    It hasn't affected our relationship and it shouldnt affect yours either.
    Boy can it ever. You think, in the beginning that it doesn't matter cuz ur in love, well, just how many years can you go on without an intelligent conversation? Believe me, it will drive you nuts !!!
    Just because someone has a college degree doesn't mean they're smarter. I love street smart people, they have more common sense than a book smart person.
    Yes definitely its play vital roll in life. so just join your self with same education level person.
    That doesn't determine if they are mature or not.
    Only if you don't like to eat.
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  • Are family relationships with my wife supposed to be harder during pregnancy?

    I always used to get along with my wife just fine. Until her 5th month of pregnancy. Now she gets angry and insulted more and faster than before.Are family relationships with my wife supposed to be harder during pregnancy?
    Hey i noticed how only girls have answered your questions but. Hang in there i could right a 3 pages explaining how my gfs pregnancy went and not only did i have her being B#tch no offenese i love her to death but than i had her parents being A## holes to me.. But it is hormonal. I'm sorry your wife is acting this way but just help her out and be the best you can.. Dont give up cause in the end you'll appreciate every moment spent getting there. Just keep telling your self only another 4 months of this!Are family relationships with my wife supposed to be harder during pregnancy?
    By the time I was 5 months pregnant I was HUGE...I was feeling fat %26amp; unattractive %26amp; I was sore all the time from the massive fluid retention. My hormones were going crazy %26amp; that made ME crazy!





    My hubby copped abuse ALL THE TIME but I'll tell you what I told him...you should be grateful to your wife...she will get fat, then she will have to squeeze a 7 or 8 pound (9.5 in my case) baby out a comparably small hole (or, like me, end up with an emergency cesarean %26amp; a massive scar). She will have stretch marks for the rest of her life. If she is like me, she gave up a ';high flying'; career to stay at home %26amp; spend her days cooking %26amp; cleaning %26amp; singling Wiggles songs.





    There is NOTHING glamorous about pregnancy, labour or motherhood...it is however the most wonderful %26amp; rewarding thing anyone can do but she still needs you to suck it up %26amp; take whatever she decides to dish out!





    You could help the situation by offering to give her a back or foot rub. You could offer to help out around the house a bit more. Make her a nice dinner or pick something up that she loves on your way home. Bring her flowers for no reason (don't expect any sex though). Most of all, try to understand how hard this is on her. She needs your complete support without exception so get off the computer %26amp; give her a foot rub!!!!!
    sadly yes, its the hormones ( mind you I don't advise you ever to say that lol ) I try really hard not to lose it at my husband over silly things, but sometimes you just can't help it.





    A recent example: He switched off the pool pump ( yes I know its important to save energy etc, but our pool pump is ancient and takes forever to get working, has to be manually filled with water and then has about a 5% chance of working) anyhow we had a home open that weekend and I was trying to get as much of the cleaning done before the weekend around working from home and looking after Jesse our 20 month old and foolishly decided to clean the pool - 45 min of struggling to get the pump going and him being 25 min late home led to a horrible scene with me being something like a cross between godzilla and dracula and him asking why I didn't just wait till he got home as he could have fixed it in 5 min. Long story short - never would have happened normally but pregnancy can make you a little crazy. You just have to love her through this, you have to suffer her being irrational - she gets morning sickness, childbirth etc etc etc its just the price of having children and its worth it :)
    Cut her some slack. Her pregnancy hormones are raging! Pregnant women almost always show some irritation at their husbands. After the baby is born it gets worse.





    Try being nice to her and taking some of the household responsiblities off her hands. Quit being an a**. Think about someone besides yourself. Next you'll be jealous when she pays more attention to the baby than you. Grow up.
    as a husband and soon to be father i believe it is your duty to let it go when she snaps at you. cuz she is preggers after all. its not her fault she's angry and has a short fuse. +1 on the back rub. massage her shoulders. buy her flowers or sumn. thats always good for a smile. if its really that bad and its upsetting you a smile should be worth the 20 bucks a dozen roses costs. :)
    its normal and its hormones.. mine leveled out by 5 months though but every woman is different and pregnancy can make molehills into a mountain...at anytime 4 weeks-42 weeks :)
    they aren't supposed to be, but there is a good chance. some women do get moody, it isn't her fault though, it's the hormones and stress.
    maybe you should stop being a pain in the a** and offer to rub her back and listen to her when shes had a bad day and don't tell her how fat she looks

    What in a chart might indicate someone who attracts people that are only looking for long-term relationships?

    Someone who rarely seems to strike the interests of anyone looking for a fling or even just a short romance, but always seems to attract serious-minded potential partners who want a long-tem relationship and/or marriage.





    Or can such a thing even be indicated in a natal chart?





    Thanks.What in a chart might indicate someone who attracts people that are only looking for long-term relationships?
    Saturn or Pluto in the 7th house would be a sure marker for this. People they meet and become involved with, a little more than superficially, will have a strong tendency to become bound to them in some way, or vice versa.





    Saturn or Pluto in the 5th house could also point to this. The 5th is love relationships, and with either of those planets in the 5th there could be an intense focus on love affairs.





    I would also go out on a limb and name a prominent 12th house as a factor, especially with Moon, Venus, Sun or Mars. Despite a lot of negative comments for this house, individuals with these placements have a strong ability, and drive, to attach themselves deeply to a significant other.





    **Lol. I was kind of wondering why nobody said this, already....What in a chart might indicate someone who attracts people that are only looking for long-term relationships?
    That's a tough one. I started writing something, then thought about it, and decided to go back and redo it.





    I was trying to figure out whether these people who are attracted to this person have a common Earth Venus?





    If so, then it could be a Saturn in soft aspect to the ascendant, Sun, or Mars...It would give that person the appearance of someone who is serious and so serious relationship minded people may be attracted.





    That's the only thing I could think of, but if I think of anything else, will come back.





    Tough question.
    Venus, Moon or SUn in Capricorn





    These ppl could wait a loooong long time for the right person if they feel they should. If they get in relationships that aren't working out and the issues are complicated, they'll just put the relationship on hold but not abandon it. Sometimes Cap people are actually so busy minded they don't spend the time to sit down and have a nice conversation. It can take a lot to open us up.





    Maybe not true for all Cap types of people but it is for me. (Moon Capricorn)
    good question.


    i would be happy if i found the one person now. Its only because i can't stand casual flings, i really don't feel them. It just seems like a body with no personality until i love them. i can't really answer your question sorry lol but im a cancer with scorpio moon, leo venus.
    I was only interested in long term relationships that is why I married my wife ! It is either total commitment or nothing at all; I can't settle for half hearted relationships.





    I don't have anything in Capricorn in my chart.
    That's an interesting question. I find that I often attract those kind of people. But I don't know what could explain that in my chart.





    I'm sorry I don't have the right answer, but I want to see what other people have to say.

    How are HIV positive people able to safely have relationships?

    I heard that people with HIV are able to safely have regular relationships.





    I even read an article about a person who was able to marry an HIV-negative person and naturally have a child. Neither the husband nor the child have the disease. How does that work???








    And would you go out with someone who was HIV positive?How are HIV positive people able to safely have relationships?
    In 2005, my father died of complications related to AIDS after a twelve year struggle with the virus.





    My mother and my father did not know that he was HIV-positive until six months after my little sister was born, in 1993. In other words, they probably had unprotected sex from their marriage in January 1988 until his diagnosis in November of 1993. My mother, my sister, and I are all HIV-negative.





    My mother is a unique case. She has a very rare (less than 1% of the caucasian population) genetic deletion mutation. Her T-cells are not equipped with CD4s. In order for HIV to infect a T-cell, a CD4 connection must be present. Because she lacks that connector, her T-cells cannot be infected by HIV. The mutation is called the delta-32 mutation, because it's a deletion of 32 units in the normal gene sequence are missing. My mother didn't know about this mutation until 1997. In other words, my parents were incredibly lucky because my father married the one woman he could safely have children with.


    (My sister and I are each at least heterozygous for this mutation and therefore have some, but not necessarily total, resistance)





    It is possible that the husband in your scenario also had this mutation. It is also possible that they had unprotected sex and he was fine. It's much less common for the man to contract HIV from the woman during intercourse, because he would have to have a cut on his male organs for the virus to enter his bloodstream.





    To protect the child, I'm sure the doctors employed antivirals and protective drugs during the pregnancy. They might also have performed a C-section to prevent transmission during birth. Provided the mother did not breast feed, the baby would then be almost perfectly protected.





    HIV positive people are able to safely have regular relationships - by abstaining from unprotected sexual activity.





    Having seen the effects of AIDS first-hand, I'm afraid I would be a bit worried to date someone with HIV. It's pathetic - of all people I know exactly how HIV is transmitted...but it would worry me a bit, still. I would definitely be wary of having sex. I know condoms break and that no sex is truly safe-sex. I'd even worry about kissing...about the possibility of my boyfriend/date having say, an open sore in his mouth. But if I truly cared about the person, of course I would date him. If I ever got the disease myself, though, I would not have children...I would not risk orphaning them or passing on the disease.How are HIV positive people able to safely have relationships?
    If they always use a condom, I guess it is at the very least *less* risky.


    It could always break, however..





    Anyway, I guess those two people tried having a child, and succeeded, and she was lucky enough not to contract AIDS. It doesn't ALWAYS infect people through sexual intercourse, though I don't know exactly what the rates are. If they keep f*cking without protection, it'll probably only be a matter of time before she catches it, however. =(





    And no, I would NOT go out with a person who was HIV positive.


    It would be far too risky! I appreciate my own life more than anything else, and thus I would not be willing to make such a gamble. It's like playing Russian roulette with your one and only existence... Don't count me in.
    Would I? No... I would not...





    But if you ALWAYS use a condom... EVERY SINGLE TIME... You can have sex with a person with HIV and not contract it yourself...





    Even if a condom should break, the chances of getting HIV from your partner are slim as long as you use a condom EACH AND EVERY TIME because though it is possible to catch HIV with a single exposure, the chances are actually rather low that a single exposure can transmit it to you.





    A girl I went to High School with is that ';One in a million'; that got HIV from oral sex... I know it is TOTALLY possible, but highly improbable to catch it in this manner.





    It is all about the risks you want to take...





    Also, not every child born to an HIV Infected parent has HIV. The body has ways of protecting the Fetus and though there are high likelihoods of the fetus contracting HIV, it is not guarenteed...





    Personally, I would never take the chance of breeding if either I or my partner were HIV Positive... With millions of kids that need good homes, it is better to adopt a child in need or to have either an egg or sperm donor (depending if the mother or father has HIV) to have a child... i.e. If the woman has HIV, get an egg donor and if the man has HIV, get a sperm donor.





    Breeding when you are ill like this is a SELFISH act...
    They give pregnant women with HIV drugs that kinda block it from going to the baby. I'm not sure how the man wouldn't get it. Going out with someone with HIV would be the same as going out with allergies basically. You take precautions and just go with it. Use condoms. Religiously. It is possible though.





    If they told me first, that would definitely affect the speed of intimacy. Although telling your partner is better than not telling them.





    But sure.
    I never had to look into how these things are not transmittable but I think for pregnant HIV women, if they take certain drugs it prevents her from passing it to her child. How an HIV positive man/woman gets pregnant without the other person becoming infected, I do not know.
    when my ex and i broke up, he moved onto a girl who he knew was HIV positive. ever since then, i wont lay a hand on him even if he might be clean. i know it sounds wrong, but i put my health before my lovelife.
    i always thought if i had HIV i would find another chick with HIV then we wouldnt have to worry about giving it to each other.
    you use protection. IDK how the child (if the mom had it) did not get it.

    What is it with women being so selfish in relationships?

    I either hear from the women around me or read from here or elsewhere how self centered women are in relationships, how it's all about them. What is up with this? A relationship is about two people together not a woman and her man servant.What is it with women being so selfish in relationships?
    Most women just like having control over their men for non sense reasons such as being insecure.





    I agree though, i think to make a relationship work it has to involve two people. But then again, i guess if the relationship WAS working, they wouldn't be asking questions on yahoo answers :]What is it with women being so selfish in relationships?
    I guess I'd need some concrete examples of what you're talking about, but I do see that a lot of women get away with being really high-maintenance, that's true.





    I think there could be several reasons for this. One could be that in every rebalance of power, the pendulum seems to swing way too far to the opposite side of the spectrum for a while, before settling to a more balanced motion between the two sides.





    We are only a couple of generations away from women virtually having no value at all, aside from how they accesorized and/or reflected the life of a man, and one generation into women sometimes overreacting to that, to becoming overly focused on what a woman wants, needs, and deserves, rather than what she should give.





    Another, less weighty speculation is that just as many women inexplicably prefer the bad boy who makes them cry but makes their hearts race and their loins tingle over the nice guy who just wants to know them deeply in every sense, and cherish them, many men will put up with a great deal from a beautiful woman who treats them like crap before they'd secure themselves a not-so-attractive woman who has only love to give.






    Women are very selfish! like little children and I think that the typical man has half to blame for it!! More like spoiled brats at times! Not to sound too harsh but just speaking Kingly truth. The ';typical man'; does so much unnecessary things and actions for them that they weaken the structure of the natural independence of a REAL woman. Once a woman realize of her OWN independence and has a constant high self esteem, relationships can be totally awesome! A lot of women also get into this TV world on how to look and act and this absolutely diminishes the real women within. They create their own pressures on the exterior of their bodies and expect the men to pay for it 24/7!! WRONG!!!
    Maybe you're just getting with the lame feminist women who turn the relationship into a battleground. Stick with the normal girls.

    What do you think of Australia considering decriminalizing ';incestuous'; relationships?

    Venezuela and another country already have. And do you think these ppl have the right to ask for government/tax payers assistance with their handicapped kids, fully knowing the chances of normality under such situations.What do you think of Australia considering decriminalizing ';incestuous'; relationships?
    Do not understand,is it so bad problem in there?What do you think of Australia considering decriminalizing ';incestuous'; relationships?
    Only very close relatives have ';handicapped'; children, and not at high rates. Testing can give parents choices about some impairments, and some can choose not to have children.





    This seems to be an issue of some wanting to make decisions for all based on their personal prejudices, not on science.





    I don't care to decide who should marry. It's not my business. People should follow their own conscience in making these decisions.
    Australia being a country with a parliament can enact laws in the interest of its people.May be they want to increase their population.It is their own concern,None of our business.
    That's crap, Australia isn't decriminalizing that... Where did you get your facts?? Bloody stupid....

    What does the bible say about age differences in relationships?

    I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 24. I don't see the problem but my mom thinks there is one.What does the bible say about age differences in relationships?
    Among the commandments are:





    Deuteronomy 5:16





    'Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD, your God, has commanded you, that you may have a long life and prosperity in the land which the LORD, your God, is giving you.';





    ++++++++++++++++++++++++





    To do this, consider your mother is thinking of your long term best interests based on her experiences in life. Pray perhaps that the Lord show you eyes to see some of the points in her wisdom she is trying to share with you. In other words, on a sheet of paper draw a line down the middle and give the pros of the situation you are considering on one side of the line and on the other side write the downs of the situation. Then prayerfully ask God to show you his will in the situation.





    +++++++++++++++





    In general, your mother is probably right, especially if she knows the 24 year old woman, and her opinions weigh more than any arguments you may hear on Yahoo. And another suggestion: of any opinion that disrespects your mother, they are worth ignoring without a second thought on principle of the above commandment.





    MistodayWhat does the bible say about age differences in relationships?
    Nothing. Le me tell you my story I hope it does not happen to you. I met a woman at 17 she was 23 almost 30 years ago. We had a great profound relationship, we dated, we went to the beach, and did a whole bunch of things, we lived in different parts of the country we where we were living, the idea of age did not come up, but when near each other we went out. I fell in love with her the first day I met her, she was almost perfect. At the time she a had body of a model and still does and is very smart. Most 18 y/o girls would like to look like her. For ABC reasons we became separated, I went to college, she went on do her things. I sent her two letters in 1981 asking her to marry me. I always, unfortunately, looked for her qualities in other women, this always failed miserably, in the 28 or so years we were apart, she got married, had two kids and later on became a widow seven years ago. I was married twice with many failures and many success in my life. She just got back into my life last year 2008. We decided to marry. Today I am 47 she is 53, fact is she still has the body, eventhough she had two children, she is incredibly smart and very sweet. We have many years of catching up to do. Had I told my parents 28 years ago I wanted to marry her they would have had me in a mental hospital or had me shot, same for her family. Fact also is the families know each other too. My mom met her mother 40 years ago, and her aunt worked for my dad. Your 24 y/o girlfriend has to really see the difference in age so do you. The way I look at it is women should marry a man younger than them, they will become widows someday, if they are older, their chances of being alone for a long time are shorter since men die earlier than women. Most women will be widows for at least 20-25 years in their lives.





    Ask your mom to meet her and get to know her and follow her advice. Don't fight her.
    dear friend


    in the Bible Jesus talked about the little ones who understand the kingdom of the heaven better than those of adults who claimed wisdom. it is not important how old you are but it is really important how wise you are ! I see no point about ,perhaps your mom knows something which you don't know about , so just go strait away and ask her what is wrong with but ask it politely and not aggressively. your mom loves you because you are a part of her own flesh so she take care of you more than anybody.








    be in peace
    well lets examine this a moment .........





    First you are a man..so YOU are already 5 to 10 years Younger then she is even if she was 18....


    And IF she was 18 she would still be 5 to 10 years older than You...


    that's Just how it is...Woman are more mature than men.........





    One has to examine that maturity and the actual case of each person...AGE plays NO factor in Maturity.....Maturity isn't about Numbers......PERIOD !!!





    There are Very highly Mature girls of the age of 18 , BUT just as easy there are Many Immature girls of 18.....as it is for Most men...but Woman will always mature faster then men...





    BUT What really matters Here is SHE the One Your Suppose to be with..Is she Really of God and is abiding in God ?Appearances can be deceiving and so can words...again that's where MATURITY comes in at....


    First your only 18...you yourself have a lot of Maturing to do...i suggest YOU do that.....and IF its meant to be ...Allow God to work it out...otherwise Both of you are just gonna get hurt and probably Blame God for it...instead of listening to Common sense He gave us All !!!
    My partner is 13 years older than me and we get along fine. We have been together for 13 years also. We have 3 beautiful boys together. I don't see a problem with your age gap.





    Hope this helps
    I don't know if the bible says anything is wrong with that, but having a older girlfriend can lead to different things in you that might not be so healthy , then this becomes more of a physiological question.
    Litttle to nothing. In biblical times older man and younger woman were quite common.








    Your age difference is not critical aside from maybe a slight difference in maturity. Ten years or more difference tends to pose a problem.
    Nothing at all... you are an ADULT now you can make your own decisions ... you can say to your mom, thanks for your advice but I'm going to do what I want just like when you were 18 you did what you want
    Nothing -- but just be equally spiritual and it will work out fine, tell your mom that her controlling days our numbered and that she has raised you well enough to make her own descisions!





    Blessings --
    The bible isn't the answer to all of your questions.
    It doesn't.
    Tell your mother I've been married for 20 years now to a man 7 years younger. NO problem!
    The bible doesn't speak on this subject. But if you are a christian, the bible says that we should be careful who we choose for friends. Example. we can have unsaved friends,but we are not to engage in things they engage in if it is sinful. we don't laugh a their dirty jokes. we don't laugh at the sin in their lives. You have to be very careful. Try to be close to someone who is like minded as yourself. On another note, I can understand why your mom does not like you hanging with a grown 24 year old woman. She thinks different that you, She 's looking for different things in life than you are at 18 years old. If I was your mom I would feel the same way.I really don't feel a 24 year old should hang with a 18 year old. Your interest is even different. She may say she's ready to get married and start a family. Is she too young? NO! If you say that, yes you should be getting ready to start college. See the differences.? Just be careful. She dates older men, that can easy make you become interested in older men. Also if you are a christian, just remember you are not to yoke(date or marry ) an unsaved man. The guy you date should have the same christian values as the bible, NO EXCEPTIONS! You can tell if he is true to his word, the way he respect the bible and the attitude he has towards christianity. He cannot have been married before either. Be very very careful. Some men will pretend they serve the Lord, Pray about it and aks God for wisdom. God will guide you to truth. Don't be fooled. Going to church every sunday does not mean he is a born again christian. Okay? One more thing, Be careful going to movies. They don't have anything in the movies for Christians to want to watch. Everything is about sex , cussing and you name it. I don't even go to the movie house anymore. I am find with that. I hardly watch T.V. anymore. I listen to family radio. www.familyradio.com. I also go to www.ebiblefellowship.com. Maybe you want to check it out. It's worth it.
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  • How does Hydrocodone and Xanax affect your personality and relationships?

    A close personal realaionship of mine has been on Xanax and Hydrocodone for years. I just found this out. He has done some odd things and sleeping patterns are exaggerated. He is also on antidepressants. Could these medicines cause him to be hostile, forgetful, uninvolved? If I feel they are affecting him and his closest relationships, how do I convince him to stop taking them?How does Hydrocodone and Xanax affect your personality and relationships?
    I would suggest also try asking this in health. Many answers here (myself included) have little psychiatric experience. My suggestion would be to consult a doctor, a pharmacist or a psychiatrist.


    Yes, barbituates such as hydrocodone could cause him to seem disconnected while he is on the drug and hostile or irritated when he is coming down from the drug or off the drug. Both drugs are associated with physical and psychological dependence. Unfortunately, being hostile, uninvolved and even forgetful are also symptoms of underlying psychological conditions--such as acute depression and/or anxiety.


    Be prepared for a tough road. It is not likely that he is going to wake up one day and quit the addiction. It may take some sort of intervention. If you care about him, I would look to outside help, such as his family or by telling his pschiatrist/doctor (assuming he has one, since he's on antidepressants).How does Hydrocodone and Xanax affect your personality and relationships?
    No to hostile, but yes to forgetful and uninvolved. I used to be addicted to hydrocodone. Is he abusing alcohol and or weed with these pills? If so, you should watch them carefully. The drugs brought me into a substance induced depression. I'm not sure how you can stop them other than take them to rehab. I quit after overdosing on my own because I was scared.

    Why do some women continue to stay in abusive relationships?

    Is it really that hard to just end the relationship? How could they even put up with that and allow an individual to physically/mentally abuse them?





    I just never really understood the whole concept of women staying in abusive relationships, whether its because they supposedly ';love them'; or because they have children together.





    I just can't fathom why anyone would stay in an abusive relationship, so why?


    Serious answers only please.Why do some women continue to stay in abusive relationships?
    As a former advocate for abused women there are many reasons why women stay. Fear of the unknown is one reason. If a woman is told constantly that she's worthless she begins to believe it. Statistics say it takes 7 times of leaving and returning for a woman to leave for good and that last time is the most dangerous.


    I know for me that was the case, the last time I left, my children and I were nearly killed by my ex-husband.


    As a woman gains her independence the abuser starts to see changes in her and he will either make promises to change, even going so far as to get counseling for his abusive nature. Most times the couple will go into what we in advocacy call the honeymoon period. Where things seem perfect, the abuse has stopped. However it last no longer than 2 weeks tops after that the abuser becomes most volatile.


    Listen to the songs by Martina McBride


    Concrete Angel


    Independence Day


    Both of those songs are very graphic but a very true explanation of what happens.


    If you know of someone who is being abused please speak for them because you may be their only voice. Silence can kill the innocent.


    DuchessWhy do some women continue to stay in abusive relationships?
    well men's tend to think that they own females and that's not possible at all. some of them hit females for no apprentreason at all. Then you got some talking about you made me do this to you.

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    Ladies %26amp; Gentlemen listen up! I mean no disrespect but living off excuses wont make it better! I know u love them but evidently if love suppose to hurt u, then its not love! Its mind control %26amp; power...we have to smarten up and know that U ARE IN CONTROL! U DONT HAVE TO TAKE ANY OF THAT! Think SMART!

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    i was in one.. its very hard to leave. for me


    1. we were together a long time and really close friends before we dated.


    2. he cut me off from alot of friends so i felt there was nowhere to go.


    3. when i finally told someone it got worse. he came after me more..


    4. im still dealing with him and may soon have to go to court for a restraining order at the age of 15.


    Its hard to deal with specially at my age. Its kinda hard to understand if you haven't been through it. and for thos who have i feel your pain....
    Honestly, you can't understand it unless you've been through it. The person may hit you one minute, but be sweet as pie the next so that you stay. They may threaten to kill you or your loved ones if you don't stay with them. They cut you off from friends and family so you don't feel like you have any help if you did want to leave.
    Even though they are abusive they still feel that they love the person. They dont care how much they are beaten they wont leave. The other is they are scared that they will get beaten for leaving them and they want to avoid that.
    They stay because they dont have anywhere to go.


    They stay because of the children who will do without if she leaves their Dad.


    They stay because the rememberance of the love they once had is still there.


    They stay because family members tell them they made their bed and they should stay.


    They stay because divorce is failure.


    They stay because it is what they know - maybe came from an abusive family.


    They stay because they know no other life - how will they live? where will they live, how will they support the kids?





    Some stay until they die.


    But it doesnt have to be that way!!





    WOMEN: If you are in an abusive situation - there is help for you. Call 1-800-799-7233 and ask for help. They will put you in touch with a center near you - they can help with everything.


    Please use thier services but be very careful when you do - the abusers get upset when you call this number because they know their number is up!!
    well


    their husband may threaten to kill them or their kids


    and the cops barely do anything and if you have no money its hard to run and hide


    their husband may also have connections with people thta would kill them also


    this is just my thought
    They stay because the abouser threatens them like, if they tell anyone, he'll shoot them, rape them, etc.


    Sad fact of life.
    they are afraid of what the abuser will do to them if they leave. and they could love them still.
    I don't have long to answer...





    I would say they don't WANT to, but they're afraid what the abuser will do when they leave him.





    I haven't been in one, but my heart goes out to all who are/ have been. It must be very tough.
    Well they either feel that they must stay because they are canected, the same reason some those that are kidnaped stay with the person that takes them. Or they stay because they don't want to find out what will happen if they leave. Hope this helps
    It all belongs to the eye of the beholder.


    No one can really understand the situation unless you've been through it yourself.





    It's kind of like drugs; you tell yourself you'll never do them, but one day you find yourself on Cloud 9. Things just happen in a moment.





    Alot of women stay because they're afriad.


    Or they think it's nothing...they tell themselves ';It'll never happen again.';


    Perhaps they feel threatened...suppose the man threatens to kill her mom,dad, siblings, ect. if they leave.








    You never know unless you've been through it yourself.
    they are afraid of what thell do when he/she leaves
    ok lets start with the fact that i was in an abusive relationship and you stay one for having the feeling that someone is there two for the fact that you think you love them and three you are scared....
    i said my whole life i would leave my partner if he ever hit me... but when it really happens its another story.. my partner got lost along our path and ended up in a deep hole of depression and drug-taking... he lashed out at everyone, our familys, friends and me... i stayed with him because ' i loved him' and because i saw an end to it... i knew he wasn't the demon he was acting like... and it hurt me so much to see him like that... so yea i stayed in an abusive relationship but i also didnt do nothing about it.. i laid charges and got him court filed anger management and family violence counselling, i talked to and got support from his family and he went into drug counselling... the problem with family violence is when its left to go on and hiden from the world... now-a-days my darling will never even lift a hand at me, he has learnt when he gets that angry to walk away and have a time out... so yea.. all i have to say is that being in an abusive relationship is not always a life sentence and that there is a way out of it together... please dont judge until you have walked in those shoes because it is a really hard place to be
    Because they are stupid.


    Some women are threatened into staying.


    My sister tried to break up with her boyfriend and he said he would kill himself. I got on the phone and said NO WAY, leave her alone. You wont kill yourself and if you keep saying it I will personally get you committed to an institution.


    They are broken up but now he is telling her is might die.


    He is a liar and full of ****.


    The women and girls have no idea and they believe the men about killing them and they feel like they can help and change them and make the men love them.


    It is stupid and women need help because they are not empowered enough to leave.


    I WOULD LEAVE IF MY BOYFRIEND EVER HIT ME.


    I do believe everyone deserves a 2nd chance but if it happens on a daily or weekly basis, thats ridiculous.


    Get out of the relationship!!

    How many relationships were you in prior to getting married to your husband/spouse?

    Like was your husband/spouse your first relationship or were you in some others before meeting them and getting married?How many relationships were you in prior to getting married to your husband/spouse?
    I was in about 30 relationships. (anythijng more than 10 dates with or without sex make up a relationship in my book)How many relationships were you in prior to getting married to your husband/spouse?
    I was young and single in the late 70's and early 80's - you'd be shocked at what was considered normal sexual behavior back then. So if you're talking about sexual relationships, I can't even go there. But if you mean emotional, loving relationships, I was in love once before prior to meeting and marrying my first husband.
    I was my huband's frist serious relationship. But I had been engaged once before and in another serious relationship prior to that engagement. However, neither of them worked out, obviously.
    2 serious ones before I met my husband.





    can't remember the not-so-serious ones...probably 5 to 10.
    2 serious ones
    None. Though to be fair we met as children and started ';dating'; in junior high.
    1 other before my hubby.
    A few but never sexual.. my husband was my first!!
    Bundoli_Double, u r so lame. I bet you think women love to hear your self-deprecating remarks. Deep down, they think you're weak.
    I've gone out with many guys. But my husband was the one who took my virginity and stole my heart.
    me 15


    her 0
    I was a semi pro athelete and a man whore, not sure of the number, but it was nothing to be proud of by any means.


    I hope my kids never find out.
    me: 0


    him: 2

    How common is it to be jealous of past relationships?

    Is it common for people to be jealous of their gf/bf's past relationships? Whenever my girlfriend tells me stories of good times with her ex I get jealous, and sometimes I even ask her questions whose answers i know will make me jealous. Like she says that when she first started seeing her ex they had lots and lots of sex because they had lots of free time and went out drinking more often. This drives me a little crazy, is that normal?How common is it to be jealous of past relationships?
    It's very normal to have a jealous streak when it comes to previous relationships, but it's not normal to get angry about what may of happened in that relationship. You partner should not be sharing details with you, however, you did mention that you ask questions even though you know it will bother you, so she's just trying to be honest with you because of the questions you're asking. You two need to focus on your relationship together in building it into a beautiful and lasting thing. If you keep dwelling on the past relationship it can and will destroy what you have now in this relationship. WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST STAYS IN THE PAST!How common is it to be jealous of past relationships?
    It's normal to ';fear'; the unknown, and it can feel uncomfortable to think about your loved one being with someone else. However, there IS such thing as too much information!!! It's not necessary to give specific details about past sexual experiences... Just remember that her past relationship wasn't that great because THEY BROKE UP! Leave the past behind and make the best of what you have now, and don't torture yourself asking questions that won't do anything to improve your relationship.





    Life and love are way too precious... Good Luck!
    I had a boyfriend who was obsessed with my past relationships. He wanted to know details during sex and then would give me a terrible time afterward because of jealousy. I would much rather have shut out those memories and just moved forward having good times with him. It caused so much trouble for our relationship. If you can't learn to move forward and appreciate the person you are with, you will probably end up being a short story in her next relationship. If she doesn't respect your feelings being hurt by making such a big deal of other men, I am guessing that you will be miserable. I don't know about anybody else, but I would love to feel like I am with someone who thinks I am what they want and none of the other past stuff matters.
    Completely , no one wants to picture their significant other with someone else, or at least MOST don't, when I found out how many girls my boyfriend had been with before me , it infuriated me and I questioned his character because of it but you realize there are reasons why they're not together anymore and they're with you , and what they did before you doesn't matter anymore because there is nothing you can do to change it.
    it is VERY common and it is totally normal. on the other hand, what your girlfriend is doing is not right. she shouldnt be talking about the good times with her ex when she is with you. it just indicates that she still has feelings for him and is using you as a rebound. so, i wouldnt get too attached to this girl.
    Well its one thing to talk about your ex to a new partner, but its another to tell them details that only them two should know about. You should sit your gf down and tell her that you feel uncomfortable about her talking about her ex in such ways. There are things that shouldn't be discussed in relationship.
    lol yes.


    i hate it of course mine was engaged and she was still coming around up until six months ago.


    i mean you got to accept the past with the present. Its ok to talk about those things when needed or felt like but all the time would make me uncomfortable. maybe you should tell her to cut it down a bit
    She shouldn't really be talking about good times with her ex's because your relationship matters more now. But jealousy is something allot of people deal with because they don't like the idea of their partner with another person. So just kindly tell her that you would really rather not hearing about things she did with ex's.
    its very common! some people are jealouse and tries to get their bf's/gf's back .. %26amp;%26amp; its very normal sometimes i get jealouse when i like someone %26amp;%26amp; they are dating someone else ..
    You shouldn't be jealous, but it can sure be annoying. Are you sure you want to stay with this girl? Doesn't she get it that you have no interest in her ex?
    No, it's not normal. And it's not healthy, either. It's like picking at a scab. Maybe you should talk to a counselor about that.
    Dump this chick man!!! She obviously still has a thing for her ex if she brings up crap like this!!! Besides if you just dump her she'll start digging you even more. And then she'll be under your thumb baby!!!
    its very common it happens in all relationships no matter what people say everyone gets jealous of stuff like that.
    it is normal
    its normai, she may be trying to drop a hint or something

    What are some Country love songs about long distance relationships?

    This guy that im head over heel in love with is in the Air Force! He lives in Arizona. We've tried to stay away from each other but every time he comes back home we just cant help but be together! We've finally decided to make it work. I want a good country song to go with what's going on in my life! Any suggestions?What are some Country love songs about long distance relationships?
    ahhh!! I'm in a situation like yours except we're not technically together right now but we used to be. He joined the Navy around 7 months ago and we always seem to be together when we see each other like you said. I hope it works best for you! I know it's hard.





    Now songs....


    Love Won't Let me - Livin our Love Song - Hurry Home - Jason Michael Carrol





    Stay With me - Josh Gracin


    Life Got in the Way (not necesarily together song, but great song)- Sister Hazel


    I'll Just Hold on - Blake Shelton


    I'll Wait for You - Joe Nichols


    Carrying Your Love with Me - George Strait


    Love Remembers - Craig Morgan


    Don't Give Up on Me - Jason Aldean


    Just to See you Smile - Something Like That - I Need You - My Best Friend - Tim McGraw


    I Still Miss you - Everytime I Hear your Name - Keith Anderson


    Then - Two Tear Drops - Braid Paisley


    Whatever It Is - Zac Brown Band


    I Will - Jimmy Wayne


    I Go Back - The Good Stuff - Me and You - Kenny Chesney





    soooo many more!What are some Country love songs about long distance relationships?
    The longer the waiting the sweeter the kiss by josh turner
    ';The Lineman'; or ';Galveston'; sung by Glen Campbell
    underneath the same moon - blake shelton


    'til nothing comes between us anymore - john michael montgomery
    wait for you by elliott yamin

    Why do some men and women jump back into relationships and marriages so soon after a bad one?

    Just curious, I really think this may be question for the ages. Does anybody have a clue if so let me in on it please?Why do some men and women jump back into relationships and marriages so soon after a bad one?
    I am 13 but i have a very mature perspective, i think that when people do this because its a way of covering up the pain, or anything other negativity, from the last relationship. Only ignorance can turn a symbol of love into hate. That's how i look at things.Why do some men and women jump back into relationships and marriages so soon after a bad one?
    Maybe because they just don't want to be alone! Some people can't live alone. They also find a friend to help them with there bad marriage or divorce.

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    Typical rebound reaction. You try and dull the pain by covering it up with something else. Eventually, you get your senses back and you see that it really isn't what you want and you end it.
    Because they are looking for someone to fill the void that there spouses left. They want the new relationship on the same level as their previous one.
    I agree with alot of the answers on here its plain lonliness, a need to fill the void heartbreak has left.It doesn't hurt as bad when theres someone else there.
    I would think it's because they still want to be close to someone and not lonely. Which is a pretty bad idea.
    Because they are afraid to be alone.
    Some people think they are making their ex jealous with it !
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  • What is your view of people who get in relationships to brag?

    I look down on these people and I see it at school all the time. When people are together, it's only for bragging rights. Apparently social status is based on who you hang with. When did the American society get so superficial?What is your view of people who get in relationships to brag?
    lmao, good q! I know so many girls who bragged when they got married years ago, saying ';my husband'; this and ';my husband'; that, like they were somehow superior....and now several of them are divorced....oops shouldn't have bragged huh :)





    so my answer is - yes some people definitely do it to brag, and some really just fall in love. The selective people like me certainly won't do it just to brag about having a BF or husband!!What is your view of people who get in relationships to brag?
    Hey- I'm just glad I'm not one of those couples, but, I don't judge them, or anybody else. If this is the only reason they are in a relationship- to brag- I actually pity them. It's like, Get a life, for pity's sake! You just wait, the day before Valentine's Day (VD)- one of them will break up with the other, because this way they won't have to get them a Valentine's Day Gift! LOL! See, don't you feel sorry for them already?


    ;-) Take care!
    i share the same opinion basically but i think that with a early relationship maybe it will give you an idea of what to do in future relationships in college or something
    i agree with you...but im sure not everyone at school just goes out to brag. some people do really fall in love....unless its middle school your talking about.
    People like that are idiots, my friend.
    people like that are idiots

    Reason why relationships with compatible signs do not work out?




    i keep reading and hearing that gemini and aquarius are the best match, but im just wondering what are the reason it wouldnt be a good match and not work out? just based on facts from astrology leaving other things aside.Reason why relationships with compatible signs do not work out?
    I've dated Aquarians as a Gemini....... and reallly I am looking for the ';right one'; for me...... for whatever reason that is. I get really insecure easily and probably attract the same type. also have been known to be misunderstood!!!!!!! and misunderstand others.





    we find it easy to distance ourselves from what we have tryed and tryed to understand time and time again it is much too easy to loosen a reign on a wild horse!!!!!Reason why relationships with compatible signs do not work out?
    based on facts from astrology - what the previous post said (your entire chart)


    why they actually don't usually work out - people are people, astrology only goes so far...


    then you have Freud and Durkheim, psychology, sociology whatever you want...


    :)


    from personal experience I'm a Gem (dating an Aqua) we have too much fun, not enough action sometimes... keeps us interested but not too much get done! it also depends where you are in your life, your values, etc, like someone previously (again) stated!
    Again, I feel like I am just reiterating the same thing. There are 12 sun signs. There are far more than 12 types of people. There is absolutely no way that you can make any decision based on what sign a person is born under. You have to do a chart that will give you other details, such as moon sign, ascendant, planetary positions and house cusps and aspects.
    both like to go with the flow, and they may not put heaps of effort to see each other.





    i think the main reasons why compatible signs dont work out is because


    you are at different stages of your lives or have different values :)
    The moon,Venus,mars,rising ad all of the rest of the signs were probably not compatible.

    What is the difference between teenager relationships and adult relationships?

    im still a teenager so i don't know if when adults date it's any different from teenagers but i heard its sort of the same and different. like for teens, some date for fun, some date for serious relationships, some date to have sex. and i noe throughout a teenagers life, they could have dated like 10 times alrdy. are adult relationships like this also or do most adults want something more serious besides sex, popularity, and numbers?What is the difference between teenager relationships and adult relationships?
    I'm not really sure. To be honest, I've never really thought about it that way...What is the difference between teenager relationships and adult relationships?
    Adults can date for the same reasons, love, to build a family, to gain status, or just to have sex.





    The difference is that adults have to worry about mortgages, bills, other expenses, jobs, etc. Worrying about whose parents aren't home so you can have sex is much different from worrying about what house to buy and how to divide the property. Adult relationships simply come with the stresses of being an adult.





    Most teenagers don't understand how insignificant their bf/gf relationships are. It doesn't prepare you for adult relationships or situations.
    hahaha, yeah, you dont get ';popularity'; so much just by dating alot of people as an adult. (who are you going to be popular with?)





    It's alot different. Teen dating, youre learning the ropes, your having awkward first experiences, all that. Adult dating, you start trying to find someone to spend your life with (once you know what you want out of life, something most teens dont know).





    Dont get me wrong though. There are still plenty of ';adults'; that date a girl to get laid, or date a guy to get a free dinner. hahaha.
    I think most adults have relationships because they want and need a partner to go through life with them. its really nice to have someone else there to give you emotional and financial support. and in turn, you do your best to provide it to them. you help each other out, you're there for each other. you go out and do romantic things and have fun, but you can still be serious and responsible. adults want to be in a relationship with somebody who wants to go do the same things that they want to. its basically like a best friend on a whole new level.





    ';some date for fun, some date for serious relationships, some date to have sex';-- there are many adults who date for these reasons also. but once you have yourself figured out, once you can get out there and see a bit of the world for yourself, you can really give yourself to someone. a really good relationship, the ones that last, are the ones that can combine all the good qualities of the reasons you gave for teenage relationships.





    popularity is not important. it is what kind of impact you have on people's lives. how kind and generous are you? the people that people like most, are nice and caring. there were two types of people in my high school, those everyone knew, and those that everyone liked. and believe me just because people know who you are doesn't mean they're going to like you.