I just never really understood the whole concept of women staying in abusive relationships, whether its because they supposedly ';love them'; or because they have children together.
I just can't fathom why anyone would stay in an abusive relationship, so why?
Serious answers only please.Why do some women continue to stay in abusive relationships?
As a former advocate for abused women there are many reasons why women stay. Fear of the unknown is one reason. If a woman is told constantly that she's worthless she begins to believe it. Statistics say it takes 7 times of leaving and returning for a woman to leave for good and that last time is the most dangerous.
I know for me that was the case, the last time I left, my children and I were nearly killed by my ex-husband.
As a woman gains her independence the abuser starts to see changes in her and he will either make promises to change, even going so far as to get counseling for his abusive nature. Most times the couple will go into what we in advocacy call the honeymoon period. Where things seem perfect, the abuse has stopped. However it last no longer than 2 weeks tops after that the abuser becomes most volatile.
Listen to the songs by Martina McBride
Concrete Angel
Independence Day
Both of those songs are very graphic but a very true explanation of what happens.
If you know of someone who is being abused please speak for them because you may be their only voice. Silence can kill the innocent.
DuchessWhy do some women continue to stay in abusive relationships?
well men's tend to think that they own females and that's not possible at all. some of them hit females for no apprentreason at all. Then you got some talking about you made me do this to you.
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Ladies %26amp; Gentlemen listen up! I mean no disrespect but living off excuses wont make it better! I know u love them but evidently if love suppose to hurt u, then its not love! Its mind control %26amp; power...we have to smarten up and know that U ARE IN CONTROL! U DONT HAVE TO TAKE ANY OF THAT! Think SMART!
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i was in one.. its very hard to leave. for me
1. we were together a long time and really close friends before we dated.
2. he cut me off from alot of friends so i felt there was nowhere to go.
3. when i finally told someone it got worse. he came after me more..
4. im still dealing with him and may soon have to go to court for a restraining order at the age of 15.
Its hard to deal with specially at my age. Its kinda hard to understand if you haven't been through it. and for thos who have i feel your pain....
Honestly, you can't understand it unless you've been through it. The person may hit you one minute, but be sweet as pie the next so that you stay. They may threaten to kill you or your loved ones if you don't stay with them. They cut you off from friends and family so you don't feel like you have any help if you did want to leave.
Even though they are abusive they still feel that they love the person. They dont care how much they are beaten they wont leave. The other is they are scared that they will get beaten for leaving them and they want to avoid that.
They stay because they dont have anywhere to go.
They stay because of the children who will do without if she leaves their Dad.
They stay because the rememberance of the love they once had is still there.
They stay because family members tell them they made their bed and they should stay.
They stay because divorce is failure.
They stay because it is what they know - maybe came from an abusive family.
They stay because they know no other life - how will they live? where will they live, how will they support the kids?
Some stay until they die.
But it doesnt have to be that way!!
WOMEN: If you are in an abusive situation - there is help for you. Call 1-800-799-7233 and ask for help. They will put you in touch with a center near you - they can help with everything.
Please use thier services but be very careful when you do - the abusers get upset when you call this number because they know their number is up!!
well
their husband may threaten to kill them or their kids
and the cops barely do anything and if you have no money its hard to run and hide
their husband may also have connections with people thta would kill them also
this is just my thought
They stay because the abouser threatens them like, if they tell anyone, he'll shoot them, rape them, etc.
Sad fact of life.
they are afraid of what the abuser will do to them if they leave. and they could love them still.
I don't have long to answer...
I would say they don't WANT to, but they're afraid what the abuser will do when they leave him.
I haven't been in one, but my heart goes out to all who are/ have been. It must be very tough.
Well they either feel that they must stay because they are canected, the same reason some those that are kidnaped stay with the person that takes them. Or they stay because they don't want to find out what will happen if they leave. Hope this helps
It all belongs to the eye of the beholder.
No one can really understand the situation unless you've been through it yourself.
It's kind of like drugs; you tell yourself you'll never do them, but one day you find yourself on Cloud 9. Things just happen in a moment.
Alot of women stay because they're afriad.
Or they think it's nothing...they tell themselves ';It'll never happen again.';
Perhaps they feel threatened...suppose the man threatens to kill her mom,dad, siblings, ect. if they leave.
You never know unless you've been through it yourself.
they are afraid of what thell do when he/she leaves
ok lets start with the fact that i was in an abusive relationship and you stay one for having the feeling that someone is there two for the fact that you think you love them and three you are scared....
i said my whole life i would leave my partner if he ever hit me... but when it really happens its another story.. my partner got lost along our path and ended up in a deep hole of depression and drug-taking... he lashed out at everyone, our familys, friends and me... i stayed with him because ' i loved him' and because i saw an end to it... i knew he wasn't the demon he was acting like... and it hurt me so much to see him like that... so yea i stayed in an abusive relationship but i also didnt do nothing about it.. i laid charges and got him court filed anger management and family violence counselling, i talked to and got support from his family and he went into drug counselling... the problem with family violence is when its left to go on and hiden from the world... now-a-days my darling will never even lift a hand at me, he has learnt when he gets that angry to walk away and have a time out... so yea.. all i have to say is that being in an abusive relationship is not always a life sentence and that there is a way out of it together... please dont judge until you have walked in those shoes because it is a really hard place to be
Because they are stupid.
Some women are threatened into staying.
My sister tried to break up with her boyfriend and he said he would kill himself. I got on the phone and said NO WAY, leave her alone. You wont kill yourself and if you keep saying it I will personally get you committed to an institution.
They are broken up but now he is telling her is might die.
He is a liar and full of ****.
The women and girls have no idea and they believe the men about killing them and they feel like they can help and change them and make the men love them.
It is stupid and women need help because they are not empowered enough to leave.
I WOULD LEAVE IF MY BOYFRIEND EVER HIT ME.
I do believe everyone deserves a 2nd chance but if it happens on a daily or weekly basis, thats ridiculous.
Get out of the relationship!!
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