Often long distance has been assumed not to work for the simple fact that you cant be spontaneous and do things with your special someone without planning it. And a lot of people don't utilize all their sources. If you are entering a long distance relationship I recommend you webcam, email, phone call, and join second life. The virtual world is a great way to spend time together, it will allow you to do what you would do had you been together, and it is very fun. Hope this helps!Why do so many people say that long distance relationships dont work?
Many ppl say that long distance relationships don't work because there isn't any trust in the relationship from the beginning. Especially when there is no communication in the relationship. Some ppl like they have to that needed companionship but it's not there when you are separated from your other spouse. My theory is if you don't have any trust or communication in the relationship whether or not if it is distance or not it won't work.
I've been in 3 (NEVER AGAIN) and I can tell you they don't work. The problem is that you never are able to fall into a natural day-to-day existence with your partner. You tend to end up lonely and isolated because you spend most of your time alone, but when you go out you don't really feel single. LDR's can feel very exciting because every time you meet it's like X-mas... a special holiday -- but you never learn the basic trade off's of living in closer proximity. Then, when the people do ever move together... things almost always break up instantly because the previous dynamic of holiday is no longer there but you have not established the ability for compromise that is needed for closer proximity and the relationship dies a quick and painful death. It's just really not a great idea, unless you are poly amorous of course and do not have to rely on a single person for your connection... but even then it can be tricky.
People just assume they dont work
becuase you meet other people,and the temptation to cheat
and you rarely see the peson.
I kind of assume long distant relationships, where you meet on like the internet and stuff like that where you dont meet the person.
is just to have a lable that yeah! i have a boyfriend!
becuase you two really dont get to know each other.
but they can work!
any thing is possible.
people have made them work, and they will continue to work.
I don't know why but they just don't. Look where it landed me....My boyfriend, who I have a long distance relationship with, is scared of commitment but I have just found out I'm pregnant with his baby, my mom is gonna freak, and if the relationship was short, it would be easier to sort out. Oh, and I'm only 15 years old. Don't go for a long distance relationship. The suck.
Because you hardly ever get to see each other! You have to both be dead set on making it work and realize that it's gonna be frustrating at times. You also have to trust that the other person isn't cheating. It would be very easy to cheat and get away with it if you're living in different states. If it's just a few months apart and it's a long-term relationship and you will be reunited after a few months then it can absolutely work...but if you're never able to see each other or it's a new relationship just do yourself a favor and get out.
I think you're right. It all depends on the couple. I think two people who are older are more apt to have patience and trust to make it work. I am older and wouldnt want a long distance relationship (who doesnt with having to not be able to see them), however, if I met someone that had to be away for work or school, and I knew we really had something special going, I would work at it. It would be hard, but I would try if it meant that much to both of us.
long distance relationships work for some people but not all
it all depends on how secure each person is and if they're willing to make things work.
both people have to equally make an effort to be together if that's what they're planning on doing.
if one of them doesn't want it to work, then there's no point
well .. i been in a long distance realtionship , at first it was wonderful because the guy waws super hot ... and he was nice and we were such a good friends and we fal in love blah blah blah ..
but the problem is dat i never got to know him a lot .. u knoe in the internet everything is perfect because u cannot see or hear the other person so u wont get dat hurt .. for me he was really perfect but then he fall in love .. and i met this guy whi i really like and at the end we broke up because we found someone who can really gave us wat we want ... like fir the phine or internet is better to have a friend
Yeah a lot may assume. But long distance relationships can be hard. I was in one and it only lasted a few months because he said it was getting too hard since we didn't see each other much. Some people can make them work though. I guess it just depends on the people and what is going on in their lives.
Well because you barely ever get to see each other when it's long distance. Phone calls are nice, but they just don't cut it.. Without your partner there with you like they normally would be, you will each start to notice new people who are around you all the time.
Well, I have a boyfriend in Florida. Those people probably had these really bad long-distance relationships. But the thing is, you really have to want to make it work out, or everything turns to crap and then you break-up. I've been with my boyfriend since December of last year, but.. Well.. Sometimes I just dunno.
OH! it sooo totally works!! it will make your bond stronger, and when you do get to see eachother it will be more special. it wont work it the two people are not commited to eachother. but if they are it works great and can create an even more beautiful relaiotnship, and they two people will learn how to have individual lives but still be with someone. if that makes sense.=]
Sometimes it works but will most of the time, it doesn't but sure if ppl like say that IT DOESN'T WORK! that doesn't mean in all cases %26amp; situations, I think in order to make it, both parts should work in making it work, both should be devoted, In order to successed in such relationship but if one like didn't care %26amp; turn his hade the other direction it won't work.
Don't know why they say it. My attitude is, if you haven't tried it, keep your mouth shut. Been married to my wife for 10 years. She lives and works in London. I live and work in Manhattan. I worked out a transfer to London (about 5 years ago). We thought that was great. After 6 months,we were at each others throats. I'm quickly left for NYC. Now she's there, I'm here. We talk on the phone sometimes. Email all the time. Have a great relationship. See each other about 3 weeks out of the year. We're fine. It's the ocean between us that keeps us together!
Well if you are in a relationship with someone and they move away, the memory of you and that person slowly fades. You forget and start to date other people and so does that person. Then you completely forget. But some people keep in touch over the phone, internet, and they even visit.
Well it doesn't.The reasons why is because you wont be able to see them.They could be cheating on you.You'd want to call them a lot,then you'll think your getting annoying.You would just get tried of it and brake up with even though you love them so much.
It is because they have never tried and they can not imagine being away from their loved ones.
I have been in a long distance relationship for over a year, and I am more happy that I have ever been. People who say it doesn't work are weak cowards and sex addicts who need a** everyday.
It isn't really that they don't work. They are just a lot more work, and most people are lazy. It's easier for close relationships, so most people are able to make them more successful than long distance.
they can work if u want them too.
yea they r hard at times
i have been in one for 6 months now
and every time that i see my bf ever second with him is special :)
they can work
they do work sometimes...but not all the time. my sister was in a long distance relationship with a guy and he cheated on her because well....he's a guy and he needed sex lol
because they generally dont. people get bored and cheat, and unless theyre both good liars the relationship goes down the tube.
Bcuz ppl cheat, and u wont even know it.
They only work if the couple are sleeping around while away from their mate,Therefore they don't work!!!!!!!!!!
long distance relationships are for people scared of playing the local field.
It works out when the two people are in love.
It doesn't work out when one (or both) people are not THAT much in love.
Plain and simple.
Untrue, seen people from different countries become married.
you can't have a relation with out sex.... sorry.. it works in fairy tales not in real life
mine have never worked. you get lonely and meet other people. plus it gets expensive traveling back and forth.
Mine is working still. 1 year together with her.
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